WHERE WE CAN FIND OUR PURPOSE?

Have you ever wondered how some people live the slow lives and some others chase the moments and collect the memories? Who has more fun and who is happier, at the end of the day?

Honestly, I think it’s very difficult to compare the different categories of living the life. It is almost like you compare the social capability of introverts and extroverts. It is still not comparable but we must admit that some indicators indeed shaped our life expectations and our possibility for feeling settled and satisfied.

Recently I am facing often the expressions like FOMO and JOMO and I stated investigating the story behind both of them. Usually between the instagram algorithm and vocabulary, these seem to be on the top of adopted and accepted social media behavior. It is like we divide ourselves on those who like Coca Cola and those who are fans of Pepsi. You must pick one or you shall be quiet for the rest of your life.

FOMO syndrome is accepted as the English term for anxiety or for FEAR OF MISSING OUT. This is related to all of people who get up, scroll the social media long enough to be updated and never miss any meeting or event at work, being afraid to not be informed . That’s a mental independence on information, networking and comparison with others. These people are never happy enough to end up checking on others , accepting their own values and life purpose. They are not evil people but deep unhappy and sad. They burden only their own mental capacity and cause their own problems, struggles and issues in life. That what is starting as kind of popular or viral trend is finishing in tapestry of serious mental health issues.

You can’t be faster than the world that is circulation for news and about news. You can follow as much as you think you can and manage but you won’t be updated enough. It will be always a little and devastating crack that is going to eat up your confidence , to make you trembling for more home feeds from all over. It’s addiction in the area of AI, hush tags, likes and dislikes.

The opposite of FOMO is powerfully created JOMO, or the last shelter- THE JOY OF MISSING OUT. It is the proof that there are still human beings who don’t breathe in the harmony with machines, the revolution avant-garde against nano- dictators. They have completely different mindset that is boosting with self -confidence, awareness about the facts that we can’t be everywhere at the same time and that we can’t know everything or do everything. There is a time and energy for all what is important but also for taking time to be out and enjoying your own – me time, far away from expectations, illusions and perspective of how and what me must be doing to be labeled as informed, social and updated homo sapiens.

Being JOMO when you are surrounded by FOMO people is some kind of success itself. According to studies, people experience the real mental struggles with not controlling FOMO syndrome. It could be visible in family, among friends and at work . At home, you run to catch up with family members and to be updated what’s going on even if nothing is happening. Among friends, you try to reach every party or meet up so you are well connected and accepted by your own solar system. What about job? Don’t miss this webinar, don’t miss that team building. We are more managers than we are paid to be . It’s ridiculous. Because of such kind of career, we have cancer on rise, we have mental illness all over and we have the generations that is suffering from not knowing to say NO, thank you. The pleasers instead of decision makers. DO what makes you happy and not what others think it makes you happy. You have been born to fly and not to crawl or to chase people, actions or even chances . Your life is here to be loved and appreciated and not performed.

I am pretty much aware that is not easy to fight against FOMO and to switch on JOMO. I see you and I hear you. It is a challenge out there to be seen, to be felt and to be marked as networked. But , the reality is that only slow life is the one that gives you space and energy to be creative and to do marvelous things . Everything else is copy paste , virtual adoration and imitation, trending here or there but not you, who you are meant to be.

I believe in you and let’s make private life and slow life great again.

For more JOMO people 💛